The #1 Thing I Learned Turning 34

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Most of the time I’m super extra when it comes to my birthday or my family’s birthdays. Because, well, what other holiday is all yours?! I love going all out with balloons, decorations, cake, cards, and of course pictures. This is in addition to a party too ( sorry, not sorry). Seriously though, a birthday is a significant reminder than God has allowed you to live an entire 365 (366 if it’s leap year) days and that’s pretty incredible.

This year, though, I felt blah. Days leading up up my birthday, I had no excitement building. I didn’t want to do anything for my big day or even have cake. When you have to littles under 7 and you say you don’t want cake for your birthday, it doesn’t go so well. Lol. But, I began to evaluate everything that has been going on lately and came to the conclusion that I haven’t been taking care of myself.

Now, before you get all stern with me, let me explain. I don’t mean not taking care of myself like, not eating or sleeping or not seeing my doctor regularly. I mean, I’ve been on “wife and mommy” overload. I think I got so consumed as most mothers’ do, with making sure everyone else was well taken care of on all levels, that I began to slack off on my own needs. As a mother, I pride myself on making sure things are in order, everyone is happy and healthy. But I forgot that, that starts with ME!

I took notice of my funk, sad, unmotivated demeanor and knew something was up. I quickly unplugged (no social media, tv, radio, internet, and limited phone use). I spent more time outside or in my room with my window open. I lit candles, listened to worship music, read inspirational books, took baths, had a glass or 2…or 3 of wine. Don’t give me the side eye. ha! But in doing just those little things, I began to release a lot of heaviness and recenter myself.

At 34, I plan on taking time this year to continue unplugging, and simply relaxing in the nothingness of life. I want to rest and actually feel refreshed. I will go for long walks, stop and feel the wind blow, watch sunrises and sunsets. I plan on getting mani-pedis, cranial massages, diffusing my essential oils, going on spontaneous dates with my husband, laughing with my homegirls, maybe I will paint or run a marathon (ok probably won’t run a marathon but hey you never know). I will make time for me to do whatever I need to do to stay full. Because…you can’t pour from an empty cup.  So cheers to honing in on self care and all that 34 has in store.

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OOTD:
Gold pleated skirt: Target
Black velvet lace bodysuit, earrings, choker: Forever 21
Black and gold booties: Shoe Carnival

*All images courtesy of 21 Moments Photography

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